Eliminate the Demotivators in your Life...

Eliminate the Demotivators in your Life...
by Tom Hopkins 

If you're one of the millions of people who never seem to get what 
they really want in life, the reason may be a few simple attitudes 
you have acquired that I call demotivators. In my experience training 
thousands of professional salespeople, I've found four common 
demotivators that we must overcome to attain our goals. 
The first demotivator is the fear of losing our security. We are so 
afraid of losing the security we have that we won't give it up to get 
the greater security we seek. I truly believe that there is no such 
thing as security other than the security we build within ourselves. 
We are only secure to the extent of our ability to cope with the 
struggle called living, and we cannot be more secure than our 
capabilities of handling insecurity allow us to be. This means we 
have to give up what we have, to get what we want. If we refuse to 
give up anything, where will the space, time, money, and energy for 
new achievements come from? 
The second demotivator is fear of failure. How many times have you 
refused to try something because you were afraid you'd fail? Isn't it 
sad how many of us doom ourselves to mediocre lives rather than 
accept the momentary rejections that success demands? We must 
challenge our fears and conquer each fear forever. Soon, you will 
find that every time you conquer a fear, the easier it will be to 
beat the next one. Remember: Do what you fear most and you will 
control that fear. 
The third demotivator is self-doubt. When we're gripped by negative 
conviction, we believe everything we do will be wrong. When you're 
thinking like this, it is likely that everything we do fails, and 
ultimately, we fail. Instead of looking at what you did wrong, look 
at what you did right. Keep an up attitude, overcome rejection, and 
keep trying. Soon, you'll start to win. The wins will start to pile 
up until they smother all self-doubts under a mountain of positive 
conviction. 
The fourth demotivator is the pain of change. We resist change 
because it means that part of our old self must die, and a self that 
is unknown to us is born. We mourn the loss of the familiar as we 
labor through the birth of the new. To overcome this attitude, we 
should make a habit of trying new things when we don't have to so we 
can keep the best of the old in our lives as a strong emotional 
foundation. Remember, there is an element of pain in all change, but 
those you put into motion yourself are far less painful than ones 
thrown at you by others. . . . 
Reprinted with permission of Tom Hopkins International, Inc.

Punch Line for the day : There is only one thing that makes a dream 
impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.